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How To Teach Your Kids To Thrive

June 04, 2018

How To Teach Your Kids To Thrive

When I think back to my kids when they were babies, I can't help but believe that kids are just born resilient.

Of course, then we start to parent them and I also think that some of our current parenting ideas and practices are corrosive to that natural resiliency. Often parents talk about not being sure when to intervene in their child’s problem. I guess my main issue is that under current parenting practices, intervention seems to translate to ‘fixing the problem’.

Don't get me wrong though, I truly empathise. I am right there beside you in my fierce love for my children and the discomfort of sitting back as a parent and watching them figure it out and be exposed to uncomfortable things.

But trust me: they need failure to thrive. How do I pass these lessons on?

  1. I highlight anything I royally fudge as a parent. If I spill, break, drop, ruin, etc., anything - I’ll call the kids in to show them and then show them how to fix it. This takes the fear out of getting things wrong.

  2. We play board games like Snakes’n’Ladders that give rapid exposure to winning and losing. We don't play games where everyone wins because this has no real life application. Co-operative games however are ok, because they do teach real-life skills like teamwork.

  3. I try to reward effort not outcome so I say things like, “Yes, I’m happy you won the game I’m proud of the effort you put in to make that happen.”

  4. I call losing “losing.” It’s not coming second, it’s not “everyone’s a winner.” It's losing. And that's okay because I also teach the kids to celebrate other winners. 

  5. We talk about and name all those big ugly feelings (fear, doubt, jealousy, anger, shame, disappointment, etc.) because these emotions as normal and even necessary in helping us to move from one situation to the next. For example, “In order to learn to swim, you’re going to experience frustration and boredom at times, but it means by summer, you’ll be able to swim independently on our beach holiday.”

  6. Importantly, we teach kids to breathe and problem-solve. As SCUBA divers, it was drilled into us to STOP BREATHE THINK ACT in any emergency situation and that process helps me in all sorts of things every day. This is very different from solving the problem for them. It is critical that resilient children start to develop ownership in the problem-solving process.

  7. Demonstrate resiliency yourself: “Daddy tried a new marketing strategy today and it cost a lot of money with no return. I failed". My kids need to know I am human and that I make mistakes. But more importantly, that I own up to them, learn from them and keep moving forward.

  8. Don’t intervene too early. Many parents (myself included) struggle to know when to intervene in their child’s problems and level of risk can be hard to gauge. There are obvious risk areas that require rapid, parent intervention and protection. But for the less clear situations, sitting with your child’s discomfort in figuring it out can often mean sitting with your own discomfort as a parent. Talking to a supportive other to know when to intervene at these times may be really handy.

You've heard it before - "failure is our greatest teacher". We learn best from our mistakes; and as humbling, shameful, anxiety provoking, and embarrassing as those moments can be, they serve as powerful learning experiences. Of course, you can't "fake" these things so you have to take naturally occurring tragedies/accidents/mistakes/traumas in life and show your children how important it can be to fail in order to thrive.





Size Guide & Guarantee

 

Based on averages, we believe that a "Size 2" should actually fit your child from when they are two to when they are three.  However, we do appreciate that not all children are built the same and so in the spirit of helping you make an informed choice, have included our manufacturing size guide below.

Having said that, we also appreciate that buying clothes online can be difficult and even if you measure your kids according to the chart, sometimes things just don't fit right.

 

Therefore, we offer all our customers, the right to return items from their first order in order to exchange them for different sizes at no charge. Simply contact us and we will be more than happy to help you out. 

 

 

Clothing Size Guide:

(in cms)

6m

1

2

3

4

5

6

7

8

9

10

Chest

48

50

52

54

56

58

60

63

66

69

71

Waist

50

51

52

53

54

55

56

58

60

62

64

Hip

54

56

58

60

62

64

66

69

72

75

78

Height

76

80

89

98

107

114

120

126

132

138

144

Leg

35

38

44

50

57

62

66

70

74

78

82

 

Plae Shoes Size Guide:

All sizes published on our website are US sizes. Make sure to refer to the below shoe size conversion chart if you have any questions about your child’s foot length and the corresponding size in AU, European, or UK sizing.

We know how challenging it is to get the right fit, that’s why we’ve designed a simple process you can use at home. Print out our PLAE FIT KIT and try it out. 

US Size EU Size UK Size AU Size Inches Cms
6 22 5 5.5 5.5 14
7 23 6 6 5.7 14.5
8 24 7 7 5.9 15
9 25 8 8 6.1 15.5
9.5 26 8.5 8.5 6.3 16
10 27 9 9 6.5 16.5
11 28 10 10 6.7 17
12 29 1 11 6.9 17.5
12.5 30 11.5 12 7.1 18
13 31 12 12.5 7.3 18.5
1 32 13 13 7.5 19
2 33 1 1 7.9 20
2.5  34 1.5 2 8.1 20.5
3.5 35 2.5 3 8.5 21.5
4 36 3.5 3.5 8.9 22.5

 

Wellies Size Guide:

In order to ensure correct size for your feet, we have measured the internal length of each insole of each Wellington boot as shown in the table below. Please measure one of your insoles that currently fit your foot length, and match it to our measurement, to find your correct size. We have found that this is the most efficient way, as shoe sizes and measurements vary between manufacturers.

AU Size EU Size Insole Measurement cm
1 19 12.5 cm
2 20 13.5 cm
3 21 14 cm
4 22 14.5 cm
5 23 15.5 cm
6 24 16 cm
7 25 16.5 cm
8 26 17 cm
9 27 17.5 cm
10 28 18.5 cm
11 29 19 cm
12 30 19.5 cm
13 31 20 cm
1 32 21 cm
2 33 22 cm
3 34 23 cm
4 35 23.5 cm

 

Please note: while all care is taken to ensure the accuracy of this information and the final result, the processes of manufacturing (marking, cutting, sewing and finishing) mean that some variances will occur.

 

If you have any questions regarding sizing, please feel free to contact us using the form below.